Sex sells....

Do girls use sex appeal to gain advancement in the workplace?

Mr Donald Trump actually agrees with me. Heard it from the man himself on national TV.

It’s a sad thing putting aside my childhood bickering war with girls and my constant tragic relationships with the opposite sex.

In order for us to have a bigger and full picture about my rationale, let’s go back in history.

During the early colonial times, there were many rich and successful businessmen that made huge monetary and financial contribution to Singapore. One thing they share in common, all of them are male. I can’t give you their names mainly because I have forgotten them and secondly my history is a fluke.

The point that I am driving across is that business is in the man’s blood.

It is not just the stereotype that society has about the role of the genders. Though I have to admit stereotypes sometimes do reflect the true nature of an individual. Let’s take for example, would you hire a male nanny?

Regardless of whether he is gay, bisexual or heterosexual, we would tend to be on the safe side of things and hire a female instead of a male irregardless of their capabilities.

In our minds we associate females with babies; the conception derives from mothers caring for babies. It goes hand in hand. It’s also a proven fact that females are more capable in taking care of a baby compared to a male due to the maternal instinct and the entire female hormones crap thing.

The same thing applies for business. Man tends to dominate in this field due to their in born capabilities.

The ability to think rationally, to be decisive, to make good judgements, to have control over their subordinates and etc. I am by no way saying that the females lack these qualities but what I am trying to say is that females would have more difficulty in expressing and demonstrating these qualities due to their in born trait.

Females are emotional beings. They cry and cry and cry and laugh and smile and frown and smile and frown. I mean their feelings are very volatile and sometimes they let their feelings get into the way and therefore this may affect their professional conduct as a businesswoman.

They would have more difficulty than a male due to their ups and downs and PMS and they also tend to be more difficult to handle.

To prove my point, search your heart and ask yourself honestly, name me 1 successful businesswoman millionaire? Still thinking…. That’s precisely my point. The rich female millionaire is extinct or a rare breed. Reverse that question and you would get a whole list of rich and successful businessman at an instance.

This brings me to my next point. Why than do something you are not good in?

Woman wants equality and the same status quo as a man. Oh if a man can do it, so can I? The females thus naively come to the dog eat dog world of business and to all their shock and horror, it wasn’t what they have expected. They have to start and rethink their strategies. They are not going to make it based on their capabilities. Thus why not use sex as a weapon?

If there is one thing I have to admit is that all males are horny bastards. No matter whether young and old, big or small, black or white, all guys are sex starved.

This is one of the many reasons why females say that the males think with their dicks. I have no qualms with that. So I have to say the woman do indeed have the upper hand. They play to the male’s weakness. Nice move ladies.

They come to business meetings with enhanced and rather over exposed cleavage with the same and common excuse to bend down and pick up something from the floor every now and than to the extreme pleasure of the guys, or how about wearing provocative clothes and hanging out at Pasir Ris Interchange every weekend to hook those sex starved NS guys to buying their insurance policies.

Don’t even get me started about the whole issue of sleeping with the boss for a pay raise thing?

This is a sad reality but guys lets face it, we are pretty stupid to be manipulated like this. I mean let’s talk about self respect and dignity. We do have a certain level of self control and willpower, let’s overcome the overbearing desire of lust and not let ourselves be controlled by sex anymore. Let’s break free. Why not I share with you the ten steps to sexual freedom for this new age?

Oh well, one of the many interesting facets of life that I will never understand…

Daily devotion...

God's Purpose in Chastising


God's purpose in chastening us is so that we might learn not to sin. We cannot expect forgiveness and then be turned loose to go on living in the sin that brought God's displeasure.

God fixed a gulf between sin and righteousness. This must be maintained. Absolutely no compromise is possible. No attempt should ever be made by us to reduce or detract from the absolute holiness and purity of God.

Sin is always sin, and righteousness is always righteousness. There can be no blending of them in any way, shape or form. God cannot forgive us at the expense of lowering His standard of righteousness.

In order to teach us to hate sin, God chastens us. If He did not, we would be crawling to Him every five minutes for more pardon because of our continuing to live in sin.

God's people are taught by Him to hate sin by its bitter consequences and are also taught to love righteousness, or holiness. God chastens us as He pleases "for our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness" (Heb. 12:10).

God does not want us to come to heaven with nothing to show for our spiritual lives and service. He wants to see abundant spiritual fruit.

"As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent" (Rev. 3:19).

Book Smart vs Steet Smart...

I dread going for social functions.

It’s such a pain in the ass. I mean the party is fabulous, the food is great but the conversations are downright boring. Which university are you intending to go? What subject are you thinking of pursuing? Which junior college did you attend? Who are your parents? How much do they earn? Where do you live?

People will inevitably start to form opinion on you after you answer their barrage of questions. The conversations tend to be very superficial but isnt socialising like that. We become people who we always dream of becoming.

Society will only have a high regard for you if you are attending a top and prestigious university, came from the RI clan, have very successful parents and live in a multi-million condominium or bungalow. This is a whole lot of bull that I cant understand.

How do we define success in life? Is it based on the amount of education one receives? The amount of wealth you accumulate? The kind of house you live in? I am not denying that all of the above would make a person very comfortable and happy but will we be able to bring all these material gifts to our grave?

This suddenly reminds me of the book smart vs. street smart competition on the Apprentice! The core issue is whether a college drop out will do as well as the university graduate?

Mediacorp of course hyped up the whole issue and produced a trailer for the Apprentice in local context which I found of great distaste emphasising the already intense rivalry between a diploma and a university graduate.

Does it really make a difference whether you are a university graduate or not?

These sorts of choices are up to an individual, some people may not want to pursue a degree for many valid reasons. We have no right to judge others for their decisions.

A degree doesn’t guarantee you a bed of roses in the future. Honestly a degree isn’t really a big deal. I have friends who graduate at the top of their class from the local university and is still out of job not because of their inabilities but because the market is flooded with graduates who are equally as intelligent and capable.

I would prefer to say a degree is just a stepping stone to the working world to allow you to find your footing. At the end of the day, it still boils down to how we are going to apply the book knowledge to reality.

I am by no way saying that we should all be a rebel and quit university and do something dramatic. I mean besides giving your parents a heart attack you are not going to achieve much with this sort of rash decision.

Education is important and all of us should aspire to be someone, do something to contribute back to society but that should not be the sole focus in our lives.

Why can’t we learn to see people for who they really are? What sort of values they encompass? Why can’t we start a conversation on our hobbies? Or even talk about trivial things like desperate housewives ? Why must we always form opinions on people based on their social standing and background?

Why are we mailto:f@:£$^ judgemental? I am probably guilty of the above at times, but I always know where I stand and I will never put anyone down based on their background.

I would rather live a life where everyone is just plain quirky and weird. I love weird people.

Ok go ahead and jibe me but at least weird people do stupid things to entertain me and make me laugh. Weird people don’t take themselves too seriously and shouldn’t we learn to be like that?

We should loosen up and take some time to just be plain stupid for a day, perhaps run naked at orchard road, wear a wig, flirt with a stranger, let go of all our inhibitions and just be the real you.

My first book signing session....

(My hardcore and diehard fan)

In life, you have normal and not so normal friends. Thank God Yu Wei belongs to the latter. I mean it’s not a bad thing after all. Come on its not like everyday we hang out at MPH and take a picture with a ridiculous looking law author whose cheongsam would put all you girls to shame. We had a joke that she looked like as if she was doing the Long Beach ad, remember that ad where the girl in cheongsam is holding a half eaten lobster. It has an uncanny resemblance. I can almost picture Yu Wei wearing the cheongsam!

We were at Sakae when Yu Wei’s dear called. The way she talks to her boyfriend almost frightened me. I mean she was speaking in such a saccharine sweet and soft voice, I almost fainted. I mean it’s hard seeing Yu Wei my buddy behaving so lady like. I mean Yu Wei my buddy is a tough girl, she looks tough, speak rough and is a not to be messed with kind of girl, but seeing her speak like that freaked me out. Call 911… Oh gosh, it’s true that attached girls radiate a certain type of glow. I hope I am not losing my favourite friend… Oh well….

It was very fun hanging out with Yu Wei. It’s like we are a tag team. I would joke about something and she would carry on my joke. I honestly believe we would have been great school bullies. Seriously what noble aspirations? Seldom do we meet people with so much chemistry and similar wavelength. She can also be really serious when discussing about current affairs and religion and let her hair down and just talk nonsense when there is nothing to talk. How cool is she! She is like a guys dream buddy.

I really have to say she has a very mature and in depth view about everything. She would always be willing to speak up on her views even if that means having to argue for it. I had an interesting exchange with her yesterday. I mean we were like bullet fast and we were trying to counter one another points, I almost mistook that we were in parliament. I feel intellectually challenged.

I am feeling really exhausted from last nights guard duty and am going to retire now…maybe I should comment on why guard duty is a waste of time in my next entry? I am sure it will hit record high readership among my fellow slaves.

Arrested Development...

It’s really ridiculous to be losing excessive hair at such a young age. Our hair is our crowning glory and how can I fucking lose it? The idea of being bald can be compared to that of being naked. Who likes to be naked? I have a friend who is partially bald and whenever I see him, reality hits home. Do I want to end up like him? I mean I don’t want to sound mean or whatever, but all that I am trying to say is by the time I step into university, I want my thick and spiky hair back permanently. Solution: Yun Nam

I have been coffee clubbing for the last few days. From the stretch of coffee houses at Serangoon gardens to NYDC at Heerens to Starbucks at Eastpoint. I really wonder whether I would end up in the ‘Yuppie’ group when I grow up. I am starting to show signs and symptoms of the yuppie. For your information, the yuppie is not a hippie. We don’t do drugs and the free love movement. A friend once commented that he could see me being part of the group of yuppies sipping coffee and doing business presentations in the coffee house and plus with a hot assistant by my side. I can already picture it all in my mind. Oh well….if only I can do this for a living.

I have just been offered a place in the law faculty at the Australia National University (ANU). The offer just came in a couple of days ago and my deadline for this offer is in August. ANU is an extremely good university, it is ranked 16th in the world and No 1 in Australia. Besides that they are affiliated with NUS, Oxford, Harvard, and all the most reputable universities around the world.

My only point of contention about ANU is that it is in Canberra and everybody knows how Canberra is like? I feel like I am going to the Swiss Mountains to spend the next 4 years of my life, it can be really depressing. Secondly it is a research intensive university and I am not sure whether would this research component affect the teaching methods of the law school? I mean research is really interesting and challenging, but I do want a good grounding and guidance with the law modules through solid teaching. So I have to weigh the pro and cons wisely. Going to a top law school is important as it would add to your CV; however I must admit I get a bit jittery thinking about whether I could cope with the intense competition from all these brilliant people. Besides that one must also look at the way the subject is being taught. It’s more important than the reputation. Good teaching lasts a lifetime.

I must say Arrested Development is a great sitcom. Catch it on Star World. I love its quirkiness and dysfunctional characters and the family dynamics. It’s like Ozzie Osborne meets Hillary Duff thing. The show focuses on the main actor trying to get his family together to save the family’s business. It’s hilarious and its jokes are very intelligent, at least its not slapstick like Friends. You need a certain level of decent intellect to understand its jokes.

If Only...

I have been fantasizing…

The image was so very vivid…explicit to be exact!

I can’t imagine myself doing this

This is wrong, extremely not appropriate.

But why do I keep entertaining this thought?

Maybe… if only there lies a possibility

That the other party thinks the same way as I

If only I can read people’s mind

And not be kept in this state of mind

If only?

What I can do now is to fantasize

And hope for the day the other party come to realise

That this whole dream is not a fantasy

But something that has always been a reality.

What if this whole fantasy

Was nothing but a lie, by now I can only sigh?

I got better things to do than fantasize

As I know fantasies are far from the truth.

For the truth is painful yet forever binding

More importantly the truth will always set us free.


Written by : The Fly

The NKF Controversy

I can’t understand how immature and childish people are. After the whole NKF fiasco erupted, many of my camp mates are calling in to withdraw payment and support for the NKF. They are upset and angry with the management of NKF especially a certain Indian guy who heads the organisation. But is it reasonable for us to be so judgemental and make such a rash act? Did we evaluate the case fairly taking into consideration both side of the arguments? Who are we to play God and start judging the NKF and Mr TT Durai?

Even if we are convinced that the NKF’s management is screwed up, the CEO is grossly overpaid, the necessity for such expensive gold plate fittings in the CEO’s toilet, his intentional or unintentional undeclared involvement from other directorship, the lack of information and transparency of the total amount of reserves in its bank account, shouldn’t we at least give the organisation a chance to redeem itself?

Why not we wait for another month and see whether is there any change in the top management? Is it truly necessary for us to withdraw our contributions immediately? What’s the big rush its not like as if the organisation will abscond with our money. We are just acting on our emotions and at the spur of the moment, but before we do that ask yourself at the end of the day, who suffers? Search your heart and you will know the answer.

When we give, we give unconditionally. The main purpose of our gifts is to help the unfortunate in this case, is to help the dialysis patients. As long as our conscience is clear, why bother what the charity organisation does with the money? They are answerable to God and their own morals. In this world, nothing is transparent. Every organisation has its own loopholes and black sheep; but shouldn’t we focus on the bigger picture which is to help the less fortunate carry on with the expensive dialysis programme.

Our contribution does make a difference in other people’s life. What I am trying to say is we should be more discerning and not look at things from a microscopic point of view. We are all entitled to have our own opinion on this issue, but at the end of the day our focus must be right. Our agenda must be clear and we must stick to fulfilling it which is to help the less fortunate afford the costly dialysis treatment. NKF is currently the only organisation that helps kidney dialysis patients in Singapore.

NKF should also play their part. They should be more transparent and honest with the public. Never deceive or mislead the public as it would affect your credibility. Instead learn to have an open communication with your donors. I am not suggesting that they publish all their financial statements in the newspaper, but at least have the basic courtesy to inform the public of the main central figures and let the public form their own views. We can't please everyone but the most important thing first is to lay down all the facts and be serious about them. The most important challenge NKF is facing is to win the public’s trust again. But believe me when the focus is right, all things will be well again.

Regardless of the amount of reserves in NKF’s bank account, regardless of all the bad publicity of its management, regardless of all our doubts about where our money would go, regardless of everything, let’s be a cheerful giver and give NKF a second chance. Our effort may just help someone get a second shot at life.

A tribute....

Tribute to the victims of the Bomb Blast in London

Even though we may be continents apart
Regardless of our race, religion or nationalities
We are united as one in the fight against terrorism
I regard you as my brothers and sisters
And today I join you in condemning the terrible deeds of these heartless terrorists

Words alone can’t describe the amount of sadness that fills me
The amount of innocent lives loss due to the foolishness and evil ways of man
Even though I might not know all of you by name
In my eyes you are all heroes with great stories to tell
I know with all my heart God loves you and will never forsake you
I pray with all my heart that you would arrive safely at the gates of heaven
And be welcomed into the safe and loving arms of God

To the loved ones of the victims
Do not be sad anymore
May the Lord send his angels ahead and guide them in this time of mourning
That they would feel a sense of inner peace and know everything is fine
This world is unfair and the evil one is always out to create trouble
But never ever give up on God in times of despair
Always remember God is good
He will make a way when there seems to be no way, it’s a promise!


With love
Your Doting Brother
Eugene

The final verdict...

Firstly, I shall be the bigger person and congratulate London for its successful bid to the IOC members to host the 2012 Olympic Games. But that doesn’t necessary mean that I acknowledge or endorse London’s victory. In my heart there can only be 1 city and that’s PARIS. My heart goes out to Paris as I know the feeling of being ‘ganged up’ against. I am by no means suggesting that London might have won due to their connections with the other host cities and prominent IOC members, but I am just stating that if all things were equal and transparent where everyone starts from an equal level playing field, I am sure and confident that Paris would have taken home the pot of gold. But when is life ever fair? It always seem that the people with connections always get far in life, but there is absolutely no pride and nothing to boast of as its not based on one’s true powers and abilities. After all that is said and done, London is going to host the 2012 games and despite all my disappointment and misgivings, I am still going to wish them luck for I think they are going to need a lot of that for the years ahead…

It would be a terrible shame if London wins the IOC bid...

I can’t believe that the newspaper and media have been hyping up the whole IOC Olympics session. It seems to me that everywhere I turn there is bound to be some news about the celebrities that is arriving to endorse their particular host country in its Olympics bid. David Beckman for UK, Ian Thorpe for New York, Raul Gonzalez for Madrid, Muhammad Ali for New York and the list continues, in fact with all the glitz and glamour one might mistake that we are hosting the annual star awards except that we do not need to put up with Fann Wong’s ridiculous and low class make up and outfit year after year after year. Which brings me to another point? How much are these stars being paid to make this campaign?

Seriously I feel that their presence doesn’t really help the voting process. At the end of the day, it’s still up to the IOC committee to make the vote and I believe that these committee members would not be swayed even if the Queen from Britain comes…. in short who cares? The decision has already been sealed in their minds and I doubt that anything would ever change their decisions. (*This statement is made with the full intention that these IOC members are of upright integrity and morals, the writer would withdraw his sentence if discovered that they have been corrupted and bribed *)

And seriously why must David Beckham always bring his annoying other half miss posh everywhere he goes? She’s like an irritating piece of used chewing gum that just sticks on one’s shoes all the time, no matter how much you try to get rid of it, it just sticks there…you get my drift… but I will leave that to another entry for the moment….and please getting Beatrice who the hell…? and Adrain who…? to be the local ambassadors for the British Bid is one of the silliest things that they have ever done. I mean seriously aren’t there better candidates to choose from?

Take a lesson from France; they got very credible local ambassadors such as the dean of NUS and NTU, chairman of the Arts Council, famous lawyer Anamah Tan, Council Secretary of Singapore Institute of International Affairs and many others, they are all people of great importance and social standing who are well known locally and internationally and I believe that France made all the right moves to win the people of Singapore. I am a firm supporter for the France bid, in fact let me suggest to them to add my name into that list, Eugene Tan (Associate Blogger, Professor of Professional Blogging, Singapore).

I understand that Singapore is deprived from international fame and now is the time , Singapore is in the spotlight and we should all rise to the occasion and ride on our current popularity and world air time and try our best to put Singapore on the world stage, the question is are we overdoing it? There is a clear distinction and a thin line between pride and humility. On one hand we should be proud, take pride and make conscientious effort to make this event a success, but another hand if we overdo it we would just put ourselves to shame and people might be convinced that we are indeed suffering from a deadly syndrome or should I say an incurable personality disorder – the ‘kiasuism’ trait.

I mean we are quite well known around the globe for our famed trait. This trait could be easily defined as wanting the best of everything even if that means taking advantage of the situation. I totally believe that we should claim credit for the event as we did put in a lot of effort and preparation to make this event world class however we should also balance humility in a sense be humble and let our actions do the talking. Eventually others would recognise the hospitality and friendliness of the Singaporean and they would be impressed and want to visit our country again. We do not need to blow our trumpet and make a repeat broadcast about the IOC session every 5 minutes on our national news channel or even splash it on every papers headline around the island. Everybody knows. Life still goes on with or without the IOC, besides we should be reporting on more important stuff like the G08 summit or even news more important to us.

On an ending note, I think Singapore is doing an excellent job and I am proud to be associated with IOC session, I believe we all are. To top the icing of the cake would be France taking home the winning bid. I think France is the place to be in 2012 and I wish France the best in its mission. I would repeat it again; it would be a terrible shame if London wins the bid.

How can we let a bunch of English who has a tenancy to throw hissy-fits all the time host such an important and prestigious event? Evidence of their childish behaviour can be clearly seen when they took a dig at France stadium saying that the stadium is not world class. France scored brownie points when they retorted that this is a sporting competition and they are all friends. France would not belittle others as all cities are beautiful but they think that France bid is the best. What a gentleman. What are we waiting for? Give the man a tiger except that the tiger is the bid for the Olympics… he totally deserves it. France the whole of Singapore is behind you.

Tragic Death in Manchester...

**Tragic Death in Manchester- S’porean killed because he didn’t have lighter **
Straits Times-Friday July 1 2005

I am deeply saddened by the recent tragedy of an innocent Singaporean kicked and beaten to death in Manchester, UK after he was unable to give a teenage gang a lighter for a cigarette. Come on, give me a break. It’s so obvious this attack isn’t over a stupid cigarette lighter. This attack is purely racial and I see this attack as a signal to Asians that we are not welcomed in UK and people there are a bunch of racist white trash. Forgive me for my language, but I can’t help but feel sorry for the deceased wife, kids and immediate family members. His wife is jobless and she has 3 young kids to feed. And now she has to deal with the sudden loss of her husband whose cause of death was over a supposed cigarette lighter-what more can I say? I pray for strength and boldness to empower her and help her cope over this thunderstorm in her life.

I tell you something, I am really starting to have second doubts about UK. Not that I won’t have to deal with discrimination and racism elsewhere, but I always figured the English as the worst of the lot and they are just snobbish and pompous who don’t have a regard for other human beings except themselves. I don’t know where this idea or generalisation stems from- perhaps early colonial times where the British governed Singapore. I will spare you with the historic details as I believe all of us should know our history and if not, please send an email to LKY and family; they would be more than willing to assist.

The issue is that the English still believes that they are the superpower of the world and all country is subservient to their reign. Even though history has it that we were once under their control- but that was all in the past. Singapore has progressed over the years, gained independence, made a name for herself, have a sound economy, a stable government, we have moved on and the English should to and not revel in its past glory.

The English should start to humble themselves and know that they are the longer the master, they must start to treat us as fellow human beings with basic human respect and not discriminate us for our skin, colour or race. This is a very touchy issue and we should not expect a miracle to happen overnight, but our best weapon is prayer. We should pray that the Lord would change and turn our hearts to accept one another for who we are and love one another the way God loves us. Unconditional love is the key to world peace.

The concert of prayer yesterday at Singapore Expo was electrifying. I have never been so charged up over an evangelistic rally for a long time. There we were jumping up and down praising God. I felt so ALIVE. Serving on the choir really adds to the experience. As Levites of worship, we must constantly remind ourselves of our countenance and heart of worship to God. It’s only when our heart is aligned with him than will we be able to lead the people to him through the act of prophetic worship.

We were praying for the nations and I sense the Lord putting a burning desire for the country of East Timor. I am not going to get all preachy and start telling you about missions. But one of my goals in the beginning of the year was to go on a short mission trip and I have been praying for the Lord to put a nation in my heart and I sense the Lord sealing the decision in my heart yesterday while I was praying.

It’s amusing to think that most of my friends don’t see me as a mission’s person. Honestly, I am also having difficulty coming to terms over the whole mission thing. My parents laid a bet that I would never ever do mission ever in my life. What an understatement? It doesn’t feel good to have others doubt me on things I can do or not do, God decides, God will provide.

I am such an urbanite that perhaps God probably figured that I would be better off here than going over and not being of much help. I have no technical knowledge or professional skills the only remote thing that I could possibly do is to teach English to the locals there. But the only one problem is that my English ain’t that fantastic. Excuses after excuses, but as I really search my heart, the one major problem is that I am not willing to step out of my comfort zone. The Lord has since changed my heart and that’s why I want to do a mission trip before I leave for my studies.

Which beings me to my last point, I intend to blog this on my next entry but I think its time everyone knows. I decided to turn down the scholarship and the opportunity to study in UK. The reason behind this is not the whole racism issue, I made this decision way earlier before this incident happened. The revelation took place last week when my parents drove me to the agent office to settle my student visa application. I was feeling very uneasy and unsure. I am usually very confident when I make a decision and I will know with all my heart this is the right thing to do. But this time around, I feel a sense of burden and uncertainty. It’s my gut feeling.

I felt that all along my heart is with Australia and I know that I want to further my studies there. The ultimate factor that I must take into consideration is whether I would be comfortable in the city that I would be studying in. I know I should give Liverpool the benefit of the doubt and do more research in it, but ultimately I have to admit. I am biased. I prefer Australia. So this is it, I would be going to Australia next year February to further my studies.

Thank all of you for being so supportive including my parents, I thought they would get really mad but surprisingly they were calm and allowed me to speak my mind and my feelings and thoughts. They gave me fully autonomy to make my own decisions as they know I am no longer the small little boy who can’t make up his mind. I am a young adult and they know its time for me to be brave and make my own decisions and answer up to them.


(PS: Pretty Fairy, you owe me 10 great commentaries!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)